Secrets weigh heavy
March 5, 2007 by piereth
I’ve been abjured to keep a massive secret and I feel completely drowned by it. It’s so portenteous that I can’t even hint at the content. Suffice to say it’ll blow the cap off a couple of people’s happiness for a few months when it comes out.
I’m in the position of being a certain person’s impartial ear. This I do not mind. I’m capable of being dispassionate and not offering too much well-meant advice. That counselling course comes in useful at last! I’m just a little uncomfortable that the fact of keeping this secret is causing me to have to lie by omission to people I care about just as much as the person I’m counselling. This I am not happy with. Not in the slightest.
What do you do in this situation? Ironically, there was a time I asked for an empathetic ear from this person, and they said they didn’t want to get involved. There’s a small, sneaky and not very admirable part of me that wishes I’d returned the compliment.
dreadful - and unfair - position to be put in, I sympathise.
It’s bloody uncomfortable and the worst thing is, the crisis looms larger and then recedes, larger and then recedes…. I’m on a knife edge the whole time. Feel like the Slug Balancer out of Blackadder 4, lol!
god, poor you, having it hanging over you the whole time. Sympathetic vibes winging their way to you from Down Under!
It’s hard when you know someone is going to get hurt. That’s not fair that the confider put you in that position. You should let this person know that you how you are feeling … perhaps they will take care of the situation sooner than a couple of months.
Ahhh, L, how I would like to. It’s a tough one. I know how it would go down. This person needs an ear and my motherly instincts want it to be me, so at least I know what’s going on. If I chastise - they’ll run a mile. They do that. If only I didn’t care!
I wish that didn’t make me feel like an interfering do-gooder. Oh well