Sea Change
December 21, 2007 by piereth
Referring back to Tempting Fate, a recent post, I found myself in the grip of my usual stress-malaise this morning. We were packing to leave for work, as we’re travelling straight down to dad’s after we pick up R - not going home again. R was clambering all over the assembled bags, hooting with excitement, I was trying to feed him his breakfast, he didn’t wanna know, D was putting things in bags and taking them out again, I was consulting my list of ‘Mustn’t Forgets’ to see what I’d forgotten; in all, it was mayhem. I lost my rag and started a hissy-fit and we looked set fair for a typically stressed and morose day. Then I remembered. I am not alone, even though I feel I am in that mood; I am not trying to do everything myself, cause D is helping me; I am not put upon and a martyr, I’m just a bit tired!
I smiled at D and said, ‘Why am I getting so antagonistic??!’ and he hugged me, smiled and said, ‘Dunno, Darling, but you don’t need to’. This instantly solved everything. A piece of everyday magic.
My wife and I do something similar on occasion. Always good when you can pull each other out of it!
It’s a skill I’m learning but it’s a long haul, OmbudsBen! Slowly trying to stop the ego giving me a kicking every time I let go the old anger and smile at my own shortcomings. We don’t half drive ourselves too hard, yes?
Blinking valuable skill, that. Good on ya!
Not achieved without real suffering, lemetellyooo.